Today’s world has developed a few unique attributes that seem to be the backbone of survival.
The mantras you would hear all around you are “Use your Mind, Don’t be Blind”, “Your Intellect is your best friend”, “Use your head, Be selective with your heart”, “Stay sharp and alert”. What is the end result – yes, we achieve what we set out to achieve (at least most of the time) but pay a price for it – we feel burnt out, stressed all the time and realize after a while that this has taken a toll on our body and mind.
Simply put, we achieve our dreams today by paying the price called ‘Stress’. If you draw out a balance sheet of our lifestyle, the liabilities side tends to look heavier to the assets – you would agree, I am sure.
Some of the symptoms of staying in your mind (in normal parlance, we call it the brain) all the time are:
- A tendency to curb your heart and over-rule it with your brain while taking a decision – while the work gets done, it does not seem to leave you entirely happy or satisfied. In fact, you feel sapped out at times.
- Emotions tend to run high and whenever situations do not turn out in your favour you feel stressed, anxious and disappointed.
- Sense of loneliness and isolation– despite being with your social circle.
- Feeling victimized with losses in life – Sense of judgement for self and others around you.
- Opting for quick fixes– like reaching out for medications to ease physical discomfort, sleeplessness, mood swings, stiff muscles and joints.
I have been a victim of this wave too. Yes, I call myself a victim here. You will wonder and ask “Why? Isn’t survival a primary need?” I say “Yes, absolutely!”, as I am no different from any of us. Survival is key to human existence but then why do I call myself a victim?
I have been a banker for the most part of my professional career and hence, my survival out there was all about logic, analysis, argument, debate, competition, risks and uncertainties. My logical mind supported me so well through the 16 odd years that I forgot I also had an emotional side to myself.
There were a few instances in my career when I faced a few disappointments like not getting the expected promotion or got a reduced bonus or not getting the dream job or a difficult boss or an unsatisfactory job profile.
I also had a few instances when I tasted success like bagging the dream job or a hefty pay raise or a bonus that looked like a small fortune or back to back promotions or a great team to work with.
As I started becoming a seasoned professional, I also learnt the ‘trick’ of contemplating. Here I would analyze these ups and downs in my professional life and convince myself that the successes were due to my hard work, smartness, dedication and well-planned strategy but the failures were because of external factors which I could not control! Does this ring a bell?
Life felt good but as I completed 17 years in my career, I started to experience the symptoms of restlessness, anxiety, loneliness and insecurity as if life was slipping past my fingers like dry sand!! There was a sense of incompleteness bordering loss of precious time.
This is when I was introduced to the Master who taught me the art of balancing the worldly ways with your inner (self) development. Simply put, he taught me the mantra “Use your brain, but always take your heart along”.
This was only possible when I opened my heart and gave it that strength and power, so it walks hand in hand with my brain – thus enabling me to make balanced decisions in life – both personal and professional. I realized that this was the only path to enjoying life to its fullest.
I surrendered and asked my Master “How do I open my heart? How do I stop being a slave of my mind?”
And, He introduced me to MEDITATION.
I will be honest – I was nervous and felt tired just picturising sitting and doing ‘nothing’. However, the excitement of walking this new path propelled me…
He is an enlightened Master and I could not have found anybody better to introduce me to the technique. He taught me step-by-step, patiently explaining the experience I was having at every stage and encouraging me to continue practising without any expectations. It takes a Master to teach you meditation so I will refrain from teaching meditation but I can definitely share with you my experience as a student.
How did I start?
- I changed my mental frame and outlook:
- Acceptance – that worldly happiness is superficial and dependent on external factors
- Awareness – that I can only do what I can. Success and Failure is not in my hands.
- Realize – that I am a slave of my mind/brain and till my heart opens, stress will be my constant companion
- Search – for an enlightened Master who guides me on a new path
- Surrender – to the technique that the Master teaches
- Practice without judging – the results
- Cleared my schedule to make time for meditation every day
- Promised myself that I will be a dedicated student
- Learnt – with all the focus, attention and eagerness
- Practised – as if my life depended on it
How did I transform? Dramatically and forever.
- My Awareness increased manifold– I am so aware of my breath now and every time I find myself in a challenging or critical situation, focussing on my breath keeps me away from stress
- Developed a Non-Judgemental outlook towards everyone and everything– I now look at things as they are and practice this state of mind every moment and every day.
- Appreciating what I have and Accepting what I don’t– As I started counting my blessings, the challenges seemed smaller every time. This has given me renewed energy to deal with a situation without stressing myself out.
- Accepting people as they are and making conscious choices– I was not wasting energy analysing the instances when someone disappointed me. This left me with an energy surplus all the time.
- Found a best friend in myself– the more I looked within, I found that I could have handled a situation better. Since the key was in my hand to maintain my peace within, I am now the master of my destiny.
- Feeling healthier, stress-free, happy and light– now with my energy getting channelled in the ‘right’ things, my physical and mental state follow me to support me in whatever I do.
PICTURE 2 of 2– What do I need to do – Meditation
What do you need to do? Do what I did.
- Accept that you do not want to live in stress and that there is a handy solution to this problem
- Find a Master who can teach you meditation in its truest form
- Be a good student while learning
- Be an even better student while practising
- Make time for meditation in your diary EVERY DAY
- Fix a clean place to sit comfortably – mark this space as your Meditation spot
- The best time is early morning between 5 am and 6 am or evening just after dusk.
- The best state is when you are not very tired or sleepy and your stomach is not too full
- Contemplate on your actions of the past 24 hours without biases – your next day will be automatically better
- Practice Group meditation (if possible) once a week – the group energy gives exponential results
Apart from these life-transforming benefits, meditation learnt right and practised daily will also give you some tangible benefits almost immediately:
- You’ll sleep better.
- You’ll lower your blood pressure.
- You will better handle stressful situations.
- Meditation decreases depression and anxiety.
- Meditation helps to relieve pain.
- You’ll boost your immune system.
- The “little things” won’t upset you the way they usually do.
- Meditation helps to boost your memory and ability to focus and learn.
- You’ll feel calmer throughout your day.
- It can help you quit smoking and other addictive behaviours.
- Meditation can reduce your risk of a heart attack.
- Some researchers believe meditation can even protect against Alzheimer’s and Dementia.
- Meditation can help you manage grief.
- Meditation can help you feel inspired in new ways. It literally reshapes your brain.
So, include Meditation in your regime and start today with learning it right.
Till I see you with another topic
– Enjoy Life, Stay Healthy and Stress-Free –